This question is from Anonymous received on 01 February 2009 at 11:21 PM.
dear bishop,
I’m a pastor’s wife and i misenterpreted some acts of concern of my husband to one of our girl members. For my husband who is a pastor decided to be aware of his acts everytime this girl is around by just being civil and proving himself to me. OK lang po b ganitong set up. PLS give some advice. Thanks po.
Dear Anonymous,
Thank you for your note.
If I rightly understand you, your husband pastor is not natural in his actions every time this particular female member is around.
It seems to me that she is a cause for some misunderstanding between you and your husband. It seems to me also that you are having some sort of jealousy towards her and that your husband senses and knows that.
If my conjecture is right, I advice you not to jump to the conclusion that your husband pastor is already having a special liking to her beyond what is normal.
The clue is this: when a pastor is no longer pursuing a life of holiness (1 Peter 1:15-16, Matthew 5:48) and instead is doing his pastoral ministry mechanically and treating it as a profession — then, the possibility of committing adultery in the mind is possible.
My advice to you is to pray for him, to talk to him and encourage him to tell you the innermost thoughts of his heart. — Reiterate your love, ask him if there is anything that he wants to change in you. Please do not quarrel. — Do so in the spirit of love. Spend time with the Lord in prayer asking Him to give you and guide you to have a Christian attitude and response towards this problem.
Yours in behalf of the million of crying Filipinos,
BISHOP REYNALDO DOMINGO
Chairman, IRM Church
